He may look confident and invincible, still having feeling quite nervous in bed, which can make your life less pleasant. What are the most common things men are afraid of in bed?
Performance anxiety
The fear of not being able to perform well in bed can make him avoid intimacy and bring some tension in your relationships. This is especially true, if he had an embarrassing situation in the past. Once being a subject of mocking he may no longer want to initiate with someone else.
If you think that your partner might suffer from performance anxiety, the most important thing is to be careful and not to push things. Show him that you value him as a person and try to create a relaxing atmosphere having fun and playing some roles. Be the one to initiate and lead the game.
Fear of being compared to another man
There is no need to say that your man wants to be the only one and any comparison to someone else makes him feel insecure. If you mention about your ex and your previous adventures, he may involuntarily make comparisons with another man not in his favor. If you tell how bad your previous partners were, this can make him think that you might discuss his performance in the same manner with others.
The best thing is to tell your partner what things you enjoy in bed with him, never comparing him to someone else.
Fear of being unattractive
You may think that looks are not so important for a man, but in fact he may spend hours in a gym only to match the ideal of a muscled young man. He may either prefer to have with the lights off or in such positions where you won't be able to have a full view of his body.
Of course, one of the most effective ways to overcome this fear is to tell your partner about his merits. There is no need to lie that he has a gorgeous athletic body if it not true, but he may have a lot more attractive features to focus on. Tell him how safe you feel in his arms and how attractive is his butt and he will no longer be worried about small imperfections.
Fear of premature ejaculation
He may often ask you if you had an orgasm or you felt good enough, being afraid that lasted too short. This is connected to a fear that a woman may not get enough satisfaction with him and think about fulfilling her desires with someone else. In fact, almost every man faced the problem of premature ejaculation at least once in a lifetime.
If you want him to feel less anxious about quick intercourse, ask him for a longer foreplay so that he will feel himself more confident and you will have enough time to get fully aroused.
Fear of small
It is useless to say that size doesn’t matter as most men are convinced that only a big can do the work properly. He is used to compare his manhood to other men's from the early adolescence and is sure that this is a key to success in relationships. And while you may not think about the size, this fear can turn into obsession if you won't change the situation for better.
When words are ineffective, the best tool is to make him feel proud of his manhood. Choose positions for deeper and tighter( doggy style, for example) so that you both will feel closer intimate contact.
Performance anxiety
The fear of not being able to perform well in bed can make him avoid intimacy and bring some tension in your relationships. This is especially true, if he had an embarrassing situation in the past. Once being a subject of mocking he may no longer want to initiate with someone else.If you think that your partner might suffer from performance anxiety, the most important thing is to be careful and not to push things. Show him that you value him as a person and try to create a relaxing atmosphere having fun and playing some roles. Be the one to initiate and lead the game.
Fear of being compared to another man
There is no need to say that your man wants to be the only one and any comparison to someone else makes him feel insecure. If you mention about your ex and your previous adventures, he may involuntarily make comparisons with another man not in his favor. If you tell how bad your previous partners were, this can make him think that you might discuss his performance in the same manner with others.
The best thing is to tell your partner what things you enjoy in bed with him, never comparing him to someone else.
Fear of being unattractive
You may think that looks are not so important for a man, but in fact he may spend hours in a gym only to match the ideal of a muscled young man. He may either prefer to have with the lights off or in such positions where you won't be able to have a full view of his body.
Of course, one of the most effective ways to overcome this fear is to tell your partner about his merits. There is no need to lie that he has a gorgeous athletic body if it not true, but he may have a lot more attractive features to focus on. Tell him how safe you feel in his arms and how attractive is his butt and he will no longer be worried about small imperfections.
Fear of premature ejaculation
He may often ask you if you had an orgasm or you felt good enough, being afraid that lasted too short. This is connected to a fear that a woman may not get enough satisfaction with him and think about fulfilling her desires with someone else. In fact, almost every man faced the problem of premature ejaculation at least once in a lifetime.If you want him to feel less anxious about quick intercourse, ask him for a longer foreplay so that he will feel himself more confident and you will have enough time to get fully aroused.
Fear of small
It is useless to say that size doesn’t matter as most men are convinced that only a big can do the work properly. He is used to compare his manhood to other men's from the early adolescence and is sure that this is a key to success in relationships. And while you may not think about the size, this fear can turn into obsession if you won't change the situation for better.
When words are ineffective, the best tool is to make him feel proud of his manhood. Choose positions for deeper and tighter( doggy style, for example) so that you both will feel closer intimate contact.
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